Did I Spend Enough Time with my Son?


According to the Pew Research Center, 61% of mothers work outside the home. The same review tells us that 42% of people feel that mothers should not work outside the home.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself thinking back to when my son was little. I went back to work when he was 17 months old and except for one year while he was in Jr. High School, I held down a full time job. Working moms have it tough! While I was raising Aaron, I pretty much took care of the house, laundry, grocery and shopping…all while working 40 hours a week. It is no wonder, I sometimes ask myself, “Did I make enough time for my son?”

I’m afraid that we mothers often feel guilty. We feel guilty about leaving our children, not spending enough time with them, not giving our spouse or partner the attention they desire, about so many things. I know that I did the best that I could do raising Aaron and there are only a few things that I would change if I had it to do all over again.   Prioritizing my time is definitely one of the things that I would change.

My home has always been a source of pride for me. Today, it looks lived in and is mostly clean. I was more particular when I was a young mother. I thought that the house had to be clean at all times for me to be a good wife and parent. I thought that I had to do it all! I now know better. I think of all the time that I spent cleaning and picking up when I could have been sitting on the floor playing with Aaron. Did the toys have to be put away multiple times a day? Was dusting the furniture really all that important? Time with my baby and toddler is lost; it is something that I cannot get back.

Don’t get me wrong, I think keeping your house in order is important. I also think that spending time with your children, partner, family and friends is important and should be a priority for us all; mothers or not. Also, when we make time for ourselves it helps us to be more balanced and makes all of our relationships better. Life is busy; many things shout for our attention and many demands are placed on our lives. There are things that you can do to make your life easier and more manageable, like hiring a cleaning lady or having someone do your weekly grocery shopping and run your errands. Enlist your husband and children to help you out. Accepting help can save you time so that you can focus on the important things in your life . . . family, friends, work and pleasure

There are things that have to do, but be reminded that there are other things that can wait or that someone else can do for you. Did I make enough time for Aaron; probably not, but he turned into a wonderful, caring young man who loves his “Mom” very much. Enjoy Mother’s Day, I know I will; I have learned to make the time for those I love.

About the Author:   headshotSheri Miller is the Owner of Another You, LLC, a Personal and Business Concierge service in the Dayton, Ohio area. Sheri helps busy people. She provides support for both the individual and the small business owner.        http://www.anotheryouerrands.com         937-416-2207